12. Week 2 - Teaching 9

2025.08.03

Do not be jealous of others’ good qualities, but out of admiration adopt them yourself.

Venerable Atisha is telling us - do not be jealous. Kadampas don’t have jealousy. Jealousy is a mental factor that feels displeasure and is unhappy observing others’ good qualities, good fortune, and enjoyments. It’s the opposite in training in bodhichitta which wants everyone to have the pure and everlasting happiness of enlightenment. It’s such an obstacle to training in the bodhisattva’s way of life. Think to ourself, “Do not be jealous of others’ good qualities, but out of admiration adopt them yourself.” Be inspired, be uplifted, appreciate the good qualities of others.

VGKG said 1994:

We need to check or think what are the good qualities we need to adopt? In general we cannot say what are good qualities. Or we can say everything has good qualities. Everything functioning thing has good and bad qualities. For instance, a seller of guns can say that the guns he sells have very good qualities - they are very powerful, they can kill very quickly. In this context, we must regard good qualities as those that are achieved through training in Dharma practice.

It’s heartbreaking to think that we can have a deluded mental factor that can be upset by someone else’s qualities of Dharma understanding and realisation.

We can remember from the root text of Training the Mind by Bodhisattva Chekhawa (our Kadampa book Universal Compassion) the indication or sign of having trained is reversal. We can apply this to training in the stages of the path, Lamrim - we will achieve special indications or signs.

The 11 Reversals are our wish list as a Kadampa practitioner. We wish for these good qualities to abide in our heart through training in Lamrim.

The indication of having trained in the practice of relying upon the Spiritual Guide is the reversal of our previous lack of faith in our Spiritual guide such that we have unchangeable faith.

This is the single most important realisation we can achieve. This faith is the root of the spiritual path and the very life of Dharma practice, for without it we will not receive any spiritual blessings or attain realisations.

Geshe-la said of his own SG, Kyabje Trijang Rinpoche, “He is still in front of me. This lama created me. He is my life.”

The indication of having trained in the practice of meditation on our precious human life is the reversal of our previous lack of interest in pure Dharma practice.

With this reversal we are inspired to use our human life in the most meaningful way possible, and we always have the strong wish to take the essence of our human life by practising Dharma purely. Working merely to have enough food and improve our external conditions is not the essential meaning of human life. Having a good job may be temporarily useful, but once we have stopped working and are travelling towards our new life it ceases to have any real meaning and so it lacks real essence.

To take the real essence of our PHL we need to gain 3 attainments:

  • Protection from lower rebirth
  • Protection from rebirth in samsara
  • Full enlightenment

These 3 attainments are called the essence of human life, because it is only human beings that can achieve them.

The indication of having trained in the practice of meditation on impermanence is the reversal of worldly concerns; or a reversal of our attachment to the things of this life.

By successfully training in meditation and practice on death and impermanence we experience the reversal of our previous attachment to this life. With this reversal our Dharma practice will become pure and we will easily gain great results.

The indication of having trained in the practice of meditation on the sufferings of the lower realms is the reversal of our previous lack of fear of lower rebirth.

Just as animals have seeds or potentials for attaining a human rebirth in the future, we have seeds or potentials for an animal rebirth in the future.

We must know this and work against it. So that we know that we will definitely not take a lower rebirth. Be protected.

Enlightened beings see this clearly. They warn us that we need to protect ourselves from such dangers.

Geshe-la has said that sometimes it’s more important to imagine taking an animal rebirth than it is to do self-generation practice as the deity. So that you’re petrified and it makes your refuge practice stronger. Thereby it makes our Tantric practice function because it’s purely motivated.

The indication of having trained in the practice of refuge and karma is the reversal of our previous lack of actual protection from lower rebirth.

With this reversal we achieve actual protection from lower rebirth. We need to prepare now.

The indication of having trained in the practice of meditation on the disadvantages of samsara is the reversal of our previous lack of renunciation.

With this reversal we have a strong continuous wish to attain permanent inner peace. This wish will open the door to liberation.

The indication of having trained in the practice of the three higher trainings is the reversal of our previous lack of progress on the path to liberation.

With this reversal we will attain actual liberation from suffering. Liberation means the continuous experience of inner peace, life after life.

The indication of having trained in the practice of bodhichitta is the reversal of our self-cherishing mind.

We experience the reversal of our self-cherishing mind, the root of all our suffering. With this reversal we will develop bodhichitta. With this precious mind we will enter the Mahayana path and become a bodhisattva bound for enlightenment.

The indication of having trained in the practice of emptiness is the reversal of our self-grasping.

By successfully training in meditation on the selflessness of persons and phenomena we experience the reversal of our self-grasping. Without the Lamrim teachings it is difficult for us to even recognise self-grasping ignorance in our mind. We need to listen to and study the instructions of our Spiritual Guide.

The indication of having trained in the practice of generation stage is the reversal of our ordinary appearance and ordinary conception.

With this reversal we purify our mind and thus experience only pure objects.

The indication of having trained in the practice of completion stage is the reversal of our subtle dualistic appearance.

It doesn’t matter if you don’t know at present what dualistic appearances are, you can understand it later.

The meditations and practices of generation and completion stage giving rise to the 10th and 11th reversals are exclusive to HYT. And with the 11th reversal we have reached our final goal - enlightenment - and fulfilled the wishes of our bodhichitta mind.

And from that moment onwards we effortlessly benefit each and every living being every day. We touch their hearts and bestow temporary inner peace through which they experience temporary happiness, and we appear as anything animate or inanimate that they need to cause them to find and follow the liberating path.

When we contemplate these 11 reversals we need to use our correct imagination. We need to think, “Oo, what would that be like?” Imagine having no self-cherishing! The reversal of your self-cherishing mind where you spontaneously are concerned for others, wishing only for others to be happy all the time. Without imaging these reversals it’s impossible to accomplish them because everything is mentally created. Everything is imagined, imputed.

The experience of these eleven reversals are the real attainments of siddhis that we attain through Dharma practice. In the root text of Training the mind in Seven Points Geshe Chekhawa says: ‘The indication of having trained is reversal.’ This means that if we experience any of these eleven reversals it is a clear sign that we are practising Dharma purely.

These are all the good qualities of having trained in the SOTP. Until we achieve these indications we need to read and listen to teachings and continually practise Lamrim and the generation stage and completion stage of HYT. When we have achieved these indications of reversal through our training, then this a measurement of having successfully accomplished that practice. For example, when we achieve reversal of our previous lack of faith through training in the practice of relying upon the SG, this is a clear indication that our meditation on relying upon the SG has been successful. The measurement of having passed in this meditation. If there is no reversal this indicates that we failed.

This paragraph may remind you of a section in Modern Buddhism - Examination of our Lamrim Practice. It’s a similar teaching except that instead of 11 reversals there are 3. Then Geshe-la talks about a special meditation and retreat programme whereby we can try to gain these 11 reversals.

The main point is that we should practice. Without practising Dharma there is not much sense in studying it. In order to improve samsara we do not need Dharma. There are so many instructions and books on developing samsara. We don’t need Dharma to do this. We need Dharma to solve our daily problems of anger, attachment, and ignorance. To find real happiness, pure happiness. To accomplish refuge - real refuge of protection in our mind and to achieve the final goal of permanent inner peace of full enlightenment. There is great hope because we are living in a very special time. Many people have interest in Dharma and it’s fresh. Like special fresh food. At this time there is a great possibility of organising meditation and retreat programmes.

If we understand Dharma but we don’t practice, what will happen later is that we will have no feeling. We may read Dharma books and hear teachings but we will have no good feeling. We will have no interest because we think we know it all already. ==This is the very worst thing that can happen.== This is a huge obstacle. In Tibetan there is a special name for this called ‘chöday’ which means ‘studying a lot but never trying to practice.’ Then what happens is only pride remains. There is no faith, no appreciation of other practitioners, no positive feeling. All that remains is pride, thinking that we know everything and we look down on others. When the teacher gives teachings there is no feeling because the student thinks, “I know this, I know this.” Or they even mentally criticise, thinking, “This is incorrect, I know better.” Then very ordinary feelings develop. This is the very worst thing that can happen.

When we do put teachings into practice, we’re thirsty, we want more - because it’s changing us. And a happy life is appearing, harmony is appearing, benefit to others is appearing. We’ve never met anything that has worked before. Because nothing in this impure world actually works. If we’re in a teaching and maybe we’re a little bit bored, and we’re waiting to hear something we haven’t heard before, Geshe-la says this shows we haven’t tasted Lamrim.

It is said that an evil person can gain control of their mind through the practice of Dharma. But a chöday, a person who has developed the feeling that they know Dharma already cannot control their mind through Dharma practice. A chöday, a person with this bad habit, will not receive any benefit from hearing the Dharma. Everything becomes meaningless to them. This is possible.

So at the very beginning we need to emphasise putting Dharma into practice. That means being a practical student. Practical students become practical teachers.

Of course without Dharma understanding how can we practice? We therefore need to follow the study programme sincerely but at the same time we need to practice.

The attainment of each reversal depends on the practice of meditation. To do this we either need a meditation programme, or we do it individually through our own determination.

Sometimes even though our motivation is pure and we have interest to train in the SOTP Lamrim, and we give energy and effort putting our knowledge into practice, there may still not be much feeling. It is very possible when we read Dharma books and listen to Dharma teachings, contemplate and meditate, sometimes there’s no good feeling. This is because of bad, impure winds through our channels which cause negative thoughts to develop strongly, like clouds. When impure winds strongly manifest, impure minds and negative thoughts arise. This is like clouds covering the sky and the sun can’t shine. Even if a practitioner is pure it can still happen. When this happens, we should not be discouraged. How? Impure bad conditions can appear naturally like a cloud appearing naturally, and the sun cannot manifest, we cannot see it. Similarly although we are pure practitioners doing everything perfectly and in accordance with what the Dharma or our teacher says, sometimes these kinds of situations arise for a few days or a few weeks. When this happens we shouldn’t be discouraged. Never be disappointed. We temporarily relax our meditation a little bit. We don’t push. We don’t practise too strongly. We emphasise the preliminary practices. Purifying, accumulating merit in particular, for example the practice of making mandala offerings, engaging in actions of service and devotion. This is a skilful method. In this way we gently make progress in the meditations on the SOTP. We should practise Lamrim continually in this way until we achieve any of the indications of reversal that we have listed.

Kadampas meditate continuously, because they’re always trying to hold Lamrim objects. Wherever we are, whatever we’re doing, always remember Dharma. That’s the Kadampa Way of Life. Then every activity becomes meaningful.

There are many levels of these reversals. They can be temporary, they can be complete, they can also be of varying strengths. We should understand this. We need to be happy with Lamrim all the time. For myself, I love HYT very much. I have never once given up the practice of HYT since I received the empowerments and commentaries from my root guru. I have loved HYT very much. I have emphasised and concentrated on this practice. But the more I love HYT the more I love Lamrim. I understand how the SOTP of Sutra, Lamrim, is so important for my progress in the SOTP of Tantra. We should therefore continually train in Lamrim until we attain the eleven reversals I have listed. Until then we should read, listen, contemplate and meditate on Lamrim teachings continually and we should follow Atisha’s Advice. We should keep this advice in our heart. In this way we should try to become real Kadampas.

More recently this teaching has been expanded, and VGKG has explained a very special reversal in MODWA. And he made a very special request of us to accomplish this reversal. From the chapter, What is Meditation?

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We should know that if we do not find the object of our meditation, our meditation has no function. Most of the objects of the following meditations are our own determinations that we generate through sincerely contemplating the meaning of the explanation of The Purpose of this Meditation. If these determinations come from the depths of our heart we have found the object of our meditation, and our meditation will then be greatly effective. For example, in the meditation on renunciation we first need to generate the determination, ‘I must permanently liberate myself from the sufferings of this life and countless future lives’; this determination must come from the depths of our heart. Because this determination comes from our heart, out of meditation we will maintain this determination continually day and night and we will put it into practice by sincerely practising the three higher trainings. Through this we will attain permanent liberation from the sufferings of this life and countless future lives, known as ‘nirvana’.

Unfortunately, however, we normally do the opposite. Our determination does not come from our heart but remains only intellectual or superficial. We are like someone who is pretending. Because the determination that we generated during the meditation does not come from our heart, the moment we arise from meditation we forget our determination and we ignore our practice of the three higher trainings. In this way we are cheating ourself! I request you: please reverse this sad situation.

Meditation object: “I will not be jealous of others’ Dharma qualities, but out of admiring faith, rejoicing, develop these qualities of Lamrim myself.” How do we see someone who has the 11 reversals? How do we know if someone has them?

We have no specific test, no rules, no way to understand who have these indications of having trained. If we all live together in one room for a long time, we could understand through certain indications. Otherwise we cannot understand through a short time.
Do not look for faults in others, but look for faults in yourself, and purge them like bad blood.

Do not contemplate your own good qualities, but contemplate the good qualities of others, and respect everyone as a servant would.
It seems we always try to hide our faults. There may be some exceptions, but generally we try to hide our faults. And we are very skilful in recognising the faults of others. Atisha said we should practice in the opposite way.

What is the Kadampa Way Of Life? It’s the opposite of everything we normally do.

This is very important advice. If we look for others’ faults, then what happens is that we lose our appreciation of others. We lose our faith, our good feeling. What remains is only bad feelings.

Why are we doing that to ourself? That’s us - harming ourself! Our self-cherishing mind hates looking for faults in ourself, and won’t do it. The whole purpose of the Mahayana path is to erode and eradicate self-cherishing. You deliberately go against what self-cherishing wants you to do.

Having bad feelings about others breaks our relationships. Harmony disappears.

It’s like a meditation - you list the faults of that person until you want nothing to do with them. Who has created that person? They are literally an embodiment of faults. We created that person.

In this way harmony disappears, communication becomes difficult. In this way it interferes with the fulfilment of our own wishes. Of course it also harms others. Especially those that live in a community, a small group, a family. It is therefore very important to follow Atisha’s Advice. If we look for faults in others then what happens is that in reality not only will we ourselves receive bad results, but this also destroys the happiness of our community and our society in general. This is a real mara.

We should never look at others’s faults. Instead we should look at our own faults and try to abandon them. If we do this continually we will have fewer faults.

You can’t get rid of faults you don’t see. W need to be skilful with this, because we will lurch to another fault of discouragement.

We should follow the example of Geshe Ben Gungyal. If we do this, the impurity of our mind will gradually reduce. We will become a pure being and experience everything as pure. Do everything that Atisha says. From time to time with loving-kindness if we see someone doing something wrong we can say, “Please don’t do that.” This is not criticising, we’re speaking the truth in order to help them. In order to ensure their actions become pure we are guiding them in the correct direction. Such a kind action has no faults. Otherwise without a good reason we should never judge others’ faults. Instead we should look at our own faults and try to abandon them.

In HTTYL:

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Nothing good ever comes from dwelling on our own qualities and others’ faults. All that happens is that we develop a highly distorted, self-important view of ourself, and an arrogant, disrespectful attitude towards others… Only good can come from contemplating the good qualities of others. Therefore, whereas ordinary beings look for faults in others, Bodhisattvas look solely for good qualities… Buddha said that those who understand their own faults are wise, whereas those who are unaware of their own faults yet look for faults in others are fools. Contemplating our own qualities and others’ faults serves only to increase our self-cherishing and diminish our love for others.

The KWOL is opposite to the life of an ordinary being.

We can contemplate our own good qualities to overcome discouragement. (Just briefly to lift our mind up).

Other than that without good reason, if we contemplate our own good qualities we will probably develop pride. For this reason Atisha said, “Do not contemplate your own good qualities.” This is because there is a danger of developing pride.

We may not understand what a big obstacle pride is to our developing love. Geshe-la says to enhance our love for others, we need humility. Pride doesn’t let you see pride.

When we have pride it’s very difficult to make progress in developing spiritual qualities.

Remember the paragraph:

One of the advantages of humility is it enables us to learn from everyone.

Is everyone who appears to you helping you like a spiritual teacher? Do they appear to you as teaching you Lamrim? Because they can.

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A proud person cannot learn from other people because he feels he already knows better than they. On the other hand, a humble person who respects everyone and recognizes that they may even be emanations of Buddha has the openness of mind to learn from everyone and every situation. Just as water cannot collect on mountain peaks, so good qualities and blessings cannot gather on the rocky peaks of pride. If, instead, we maintain a humble, respectful attitude towards everyone, good qualities and inspiration will flow into our mind all the time, like streams flowing into a valley.

Kadampas serve. A Kadampa’s life is one of service. It’s our deepest honour. We exemplify Buddha’s practice through service to the public.